Posted November 20th, 2009

I have to say right off the bat: I struggle with this. I know in my head and heart that ebbing is part of the natural order – or rather rhythm – of things. I really do. I get that it’s natural and it should be expected. It’s the reason for our cycles and seasons. It’s how the wheel of the year – and our […]


Posted July 21st, 2009

There is a line from one of my favorite movies that never fails to stop me in my tracks. It reminds me of our primal need to be seen…to be witnessed in our lives. Susan Sarandon portrays the wife of the main character played by Richard Gere. In this scene, she is meeting with a private detective whom she hired to spy on her husband […]

The Woman in the Mirror

Posted May 20th, 2009

I had a terrifying experience last year (well, relatively speaking…). I encountered myself and didn’t recognize me – at all. In that split moment, I felt so many conflicting emotions – shame, pride, an acute sort of dislocation from myself and a renewed commitment to improving the accuracy of my self-perception. Here is what happened. I was in the midst of leading my biannual women’s […]

Loving Your Core of Rot

Posted April 7th, 2009

I once had a colleague who insisted that at the heart of every organization was a “core of rot”. He was a hilarious cynic who’s acerbic tongue often spoke the truth others denied. I remember vehemently denying his theory, as I pushed my rose-colored corporate glasses further up the bridge of my nose and sipped my purple cool-aid with a bendy straw. For me, his […]

Spare the Spider

Posted March 25th, 2009

Want a wake up call? Listen to this story, and see if you can hear your own story in it. Okay, so there is this spider that, after laying her eggs, lays down in the center of them and slowly begins to decompose. By the time her eggs hatch, she has reached such a state that her body – the one that just gave birth […]

The Women

Posted February 2nd, 2009

Last July, in a sea of 3,000 women, I experienced my first all women’s sprint triathlon. The Danskin Triathlon – the longest running women’s triathlon series in the US (celebrating its 20th anniversary this year )- was designed with women like me (“the newbie”) in mind. The hook that got me was the promise that I couldn’t come in last. The founder, Sally Edwards, makes […]

Simply Play

Posted January 24th, 2009

I played in the snow with my six year old son today. These are his post-play “glittens” – a cross between mittens and gloves, given to him from our dear friend Rosemary. They must have weighed five pounds each after our adventures in the snow. As they sat dripping on our radiator cover, we smiled at them over our hot chocolate – knowing we shared […]